I had a great run with Vero early this morning. It’s usually me that is brimming with excitement while listening to her tell stories, but today the tables were reversed. 😀 I don’t think I stopped talking for the first 2 1/2 miles straight, and she kept leaping in the air every time I said something awesome. Ha!! It is so great to have someone who is there for it all – for the good and the not so good. They celebrate with you when life is grand, and they are there to comfort you when it’s difficult. Vero has very much been that person for me in the last two years – an unwavering spirit in my life that’s served as an anchor point to my sense of self. When you find a relationship like that, you hold on to it forever. I’m lucky to have a few of those in my life, some friends and some family.
We are all a strange combination of who we are internally, externally, and in certain situations. One of my biggest goals of 2011 was to become more authentic, which I was fairly successful at. During that process I think the the biggest lesson I learned was that it’s OK to not be liked by everyone. I worked really hard the majority of my early life to be the best version of myself adapted for each person I was interacting with…and it was as exhausting as it sounds. It was never about whether or not I wanted to do something or if it was fun for me, instead it was how am I impacting their experience in a positive way to make them like me more. Now I do what I want to do, when I want to do it, with the people I want to be around. Every side of me isn’t all roses and pretty colors, but that is what makes me human. The real people who love me stick around through it all. When I look at someone I love, I want to see every part of them – imperfections and all. A good example is my sister Christy, who couldn’t be any different from myself on many levels in life. But what I love most about her is her dedication to being exactly that, even if I don’t feel the same way about some things. She owns it through and through. No apologies. I’ve also found that I am my most authentic around people just like her, and those have been my most rewarding relationships. Life is about acceptance of others, and most importantly the acceptance of yourself.